Why everyone else seems to be living their dream, and you’re not.
It can feel sooo sucky can’t it? That feeling of everyone around you, one by one, is ‘taking off’ in the direction of their dreams, while you’re, well, not 🤷
It’s incredibly easy to then react to that feeling from the mindset of a victim; ‘Ugh, this feels so unfair. Why does everyone else get all the luck while I’m stuck here in this job?’, or maybe even from the mindset of defeat and distraction; ‘Well that kinda stuff is never going to happen for someone like me anyway, so I’m just gonna throw myself into my social life [or insert other hobby/commitment/distraction here] and not think about it’ – sound familiar?
Well if they do sound familiar, then I’ve got some freaking AWESOME news to share with you lovely! You CAN change how you react to that feeling, and you CAN change what happens next! 👏
Y’see there’s only one fundamental kink in your behaviour-armour that needs tweaking, then the rest comes a helluva lot easier! And what is that kink?
You’re simply operating from lack.
Your focus is consumed by what you don’t yet have. Your attention is taken up by what’s missing. And your feeling like a victim (or feeling defeated) gives you an easy out. An ‘out’ that allows you to stay where you are, and not have to do anything about it.
And I get that reading this might sting, but read it again darl, because it’s supposed to sting.
Because you’re then depriving yourself of abundance, opportunity, growth and fulfilment in your own life, your eye is then drawn to what everyone else is doing, which then provides you with further confirmation that you’re entitled to play the victim/feel defeated (and thus, the vicious cycle continues)!
Everyone else seems to be living their dream but you, because you’re focusing on what everyone else is doing!
Think about it. If you were on the path of chasing/hunting/living your own dream, how much would you be caring about what everyone else was doing? If you were on the path of chasing/hunting/living your own dream, how often would you have the time to sit in victim mode? If you were on the path of chasing/hunting/living your own dream, how long would you allow yourself to sit in defeat and distraction?
You are where your attention is. So the reason everyone else is living their dream, is because their focus is on themselves! They’re not focusing on what others are doing. And lemme tell ye, this is a success strategy that WORKS, so you can go use it too! 👊
So where can we break the cycle honey?
How do we change the trajectory of your story? How do we move out of lack and repeated limiting behaviour, and move into abundance, opportunity and growth instead? How do you turn your attention to you and yours, instead of them and theirs?
You’ve got to define your own version of success.
When you’re watching other people from the sidelines, you’re only choosing to see what you want to see, you’re not seeing what’s real to them. You’re choosing to see a quick and painless path to success. You’re not seeing the years of inner battles they’ve fought and conquered along the way. You’re choosing to see a polished, perfected dream-come-to-fruition. You’re not seeing the vast gauntlet of growth they’re still grafting for ahead. You’re choosing to see other people’s outward version of success, and duplicate it as your own as a benchmark to make yourself feel less than. But it’s not your own is it darl? It’s theirs.
So what IS yours? What does success look like to you?
You’ve got to choose to think differently, and think for yourself.
So how’s about we stop looking from the sidelines from hereon in, and get ourselves on the playing field? 😊 How’s about we take a moment to think about and define what success looks like to us, and make THAT our focus? How’s about we give our own dreams a chance of living for a change and really commit our lives to uncovering what we want?
If you’re serious about finally wanting to stop focusing on what everyone else is doing, and turn the focus to yourself, if you’re serious about finally stepping away from the sidelines to join us dream-chasers on the playing field instead, then you’re sooo gonna wanna join the VIP waitlist for my signature program, The Imperfect Life® Designer. It’s THE PLACE TO BE if you finally want to start finding [and living] your thing (and stop muddling through on your own).
The doors are opening soon and there’s a super-cool treat waiting for you when they do! So come pop your name on the waitlist here darl, the countdown is onnnnn! 🎉
If you enjoyed today’s read, whether you choose to join the waitlist or not, I’d freaking love you FOREVA if you screengrabbed this post and gave it a lil’ share over on Instagram 😍
Until next weekend beauts 💋