How to start loving your mistakes, and spot the secret lessons hidden inside them.
If you're curious to know what lessons hide within your mistakes, but have no idea how to go about finding them, this post's for you baby.
It's also a goodun for my subscribers to Your Cure. If you haven't heard of Your Cure yet, it's a free worksheet for folk that want to make a change in their lives and businesses. It's for those who have, up until now, perhaps procrastinated or used the fear of failure to hold them back from making that change. Once you've used your worksheet over a short period of time, you will, I promise, flip your definition of failure on its head. Your negative perception of mistakes will disappear, and they'll soon transform into limitless learning opportunities instead. Every day of the freaking week! :)
[You will basically train yourself to no longer fear making the everyday mistake, because you will see so much awesome and progress can come out of them. This then prepares you to fully embrace potentially making a 'monster' mistake; the kind of mistakes that change your life, bring you closer to your dreams, guide you to crazy success, and maybe even resemble a stroke of genius. But you gotta be in it to win it.]
So yep, back to it. You've downloaded my worksheet because you want to change your definition of failure and are willing to give my technique a try, but what if you need a bit of help actually seeing what your mistakes are?
Don't you worry my little treasure. I know drawing on your mistakes is easier said than done, but I've got a sure-fire strategy that you can use each week, until mistake-gathering becomes so instinctive, you might even look forward to it as part of your week's routine!
K, so first thing's first, we need to think about your week and process what you've actually done with it.
You can do this in a few ways;
- Skim through your email inbox and sent mails from this week.
- If you keep a diary, review your to-do lists from this week.
- If you use a calendar for, say appointments and reminders, take a butchers at those from this week.
- Have a gander at your text messages/Whatsapp messages/Skype chats and calls/Facebook Messenger chats – you get the picture. Wherever your natterings may take place, skim them to get a good picture of your week.
Once you've placed yourself in a clearer position to review the last seven days (which may or may not in itself have sparked off some inspiration for mistake-finding), try divvying up your activities into work like and home life. This can be done in your head for speed, or if it suits you better, write this sh*t down! Go with whatever works best for you.
So let's look at your work life first.
Have you rushed something you wished you hadn't? Have you taken on too much? Have you spent money you shouldn't have? Have you wasted days with unproductive faffing? Have you got a bunch of annoying tasks that won't go away still on your to-do list for the eighth week running? Have you got an email you know you should've tackled but didn't? If any or all of these apply to you, see which frustrates you or plays on your mind the most, and that's your star mistake of the week.
K, now let's look at your home life.
While most of the above can apply to your home life too, I'm not going to repeat them as you're a smart cookie and have a check if they correlate by yourself. But also consider where you may have fluffed up on a personal level. Have you forgotten an important occasion? Did you forget to text or call someone back and let them down, even if it wasn't intentional? Have you eaten like a monster all week and now feel lethargic and under form as a result? Again, if any or all of these apply to you, see which frustrates you the most and that's your star mistake of the week. Hell you might even have so many, you could carry one over to next week! :D
So what is your lesson? What is the why behind your behaviour? Say you've taken on too much at work, why have you taken on too much? An inability to say no? An incessant need to people-please? Your finances are in dire straits so you'll do anything? Your business is growing so fast you can't keep up? Whatever your reason is, are you happy you're living like this? I imagine not. The gem here is that you get to decide whether this will be your life (and how you approach life) until the end of time. Or not. You get to decide if something needs to change. How damn cool is that? And it's so easy to miss sometimes.
If you taking on too much is through your inability to say no, maybe you need to work on why that is, and then empower yourself to try out saying no, and see what happens. Change things up. If you've an incessant need to people-please, maybe you need to work on why that is, and work on eradicating it. It's clearly not helping you. If your finances are in dire straits, you need to work on why that is, and perhaps speak to your bank, seek help from an accountant or use a free trial accounting software to get a better grip on things. Or if you're in the best kind of overwork from a thriving business, maybe you need to work out what you can delegate to help you help your company get focused and potentially grow even more!
Whatever way you look at it, you call the shots, and you get to decide what your life is filled with.
So how does that feel? Are you ready to review your week with wild abandon and a worksheet? :) I'd love to hear how you're getting on.