Five signs that your perfectionism is affecting your awesomeness and your business.
When business is going great, being a perfectionist is something to be proud of right? You're a go-getting, goal-setting, powerful ass b*tch with an award-winning eye-for-detail.
But when the chips are down, and you're wondering why you can't get you or your business out of a rut, I promise you, your perfectionism is largely to blame.
If you can identify with some or all of the below signs, there is a way out. And the other side is oh-so awesome.
No. 1 sign: There's absolutely no room for mistakes.
You're the first to notice them, even if no-one else does. And of course you're the last person to make them. If you do it's virtually the. End. Of. The. World. As a result, you spend endless hours/days/months/years tweaking and refining (see No. 4) so you never have to suffer the imaginable terror of making a mistake and the world seeing it.
No. 2 sign: Things have to be done a certain way.
It’s your way or the highway. From the way you run your business and projects, to the way you clean your bathroom. As a result, this makes it pretty impossible for you to delegate, so you carry the weight of everything on your shoulders. And my lovely, it also makes you pretty tough to work with and live with, in case this is news to you.
No. 3 sign: You're extremely hard on yourself.
No-one's a tougher critic on yourself than you. You're hyper-critical in fact, and if you ever happen to be so foolish to have made a mistake, you'll replay it on loop and beat yourself up for it. Like, forever.
No. 4 sign: You're the world's best pro-procrastinator.
Because your bestest quality of work is required 100% of the time, you can't possibly contemplate putting something out there that's 'raw', that's incomplete, or dare I say it, flawed [oh the night sweats]. You're always waiting for the 'perfect moment' to work towards a goal or a task, which often means they're never completed. Cue sign No. 3 and the endless loop continues.
No. 5 sign: You're always ambitious and setting goals, but success is never enough.
So perhaps you overcame your professional procrastinating status, and you went ahead and accomplished, achieved and smashed your goals. *fistpump* Nice one hun! But y'see now you still don't feel content. It's just not enough is it? You always want to achieve and be the best, and then feel down as a result. But there's a massive difference between a determination to achieve, and depression from not cutting yourself any slack.
So where do you sit? One out of five? ...three? ...five? I was a weighty five out of five. My perfection game was strong. But it wasn't until I started my own design business in 2013 and became a mama earlier this year, that I suddenly copped how debilitating it actually was. And now, how the opposite way of living has made me so much happier, so much more creative and so much free-er!
If you're serious about changing things up and trying out feeling this same way too, have a read of this. It changed my life, and it can change your's.